Therapy for Codependency
What is codependency, anyway?
Codependency is a psychological condition or a relationship where a person excessively relies on others for approval and a sense of identity. This often leads to one person sacrificing their own needs to care for someone else, resulting in imbalanced and unhealthy relationships. It may feel impossible to make a decision without texting your partner first. Perhaps you have avoided trying activities that sound exciting to you but that all your friends aren’t interested in. You may not even remember the last time you put yourself first.
Looking to others for approval and identity is a real part of the human experience. The goal is not to sever the need for connection, but instead to bring that need to a healthy level. Codependency is marked by a lack of independence and, perhaps even more importantly, a lack of interdependency.
Okay, then… what the heck is interdependency?
Oh excellent question. “Interdependence (or interdependency) suggests that partners recognize and value the importance of the emotional bond they share while maintaining a solid sense of self within the relationship dynamic.” A key component of interdependency is the ability to be one’s own person while still being connected to and in relationship with others.
What are some ways that therapy can help?
There are so many ways therapy can help and each person’s experience is unique to their situation. Therapy is highly effective in:
Increasing self-awareness through understanding the roots of codependency and how it affects one’s relationships.
Building familiarity with and breaking free from harmful behavioral patterns.
Teaching ways to prioritize oneself and one’s well-being through healthy boundary setting (and how to maintaining strong and supportive relationships while doing it!)
The development of a stronger sense of self-worth and confidence.
Fostering growth that leads to a more self-reliant and empowered life.
The improvement of one’s ability to express their needs and feelings effectively, assertively, and without overwhelming fear.
Providing a safe and supportive space to process and heal unresolved emotions, past hurts, and previously repressed feelings.
Helping one create and maintain balanced, fulfilling relationships without losing oneself in them.
I get it. This is intimidating and may feel daunting. The truth is that healthy interdependence is necessary for developing emotional intimacy in romantic relationships. Therapy can help. You can experience healthy, beautiful connections with others while fully embracing your most authentic self.
Don’t wait to ask for help.
You have the skills, the insight, and the ability to break free from codependency and live a more interdependent life. Therapy sessions are available immediately virtually through telehealth in California, or in-person in Studio City. Some nights and weekends slots are open for those needing after work sessions.